Sorry to disappoint you buddies, but no, I'm no Romeo. Why? Because a man can only be called a Romeo if the centre of his affection knows how to reciprocate his gesture or expression of love.
You can say the Slim Lady is one HELL of a special lady. She has no time for Valentine's Day. She couldn't care less for chocolates, candy, teddy bears, diamond, nor candle-lit dinner. Valentine's Day, to her, is but a ploy by various commercial establishments to rip money out of us consumers and take us for fools. Why? For the sake of love, I'm willing to play the fool once a year. Cannot meh? Her notion of a Valentine's celebration is to stay at home, coaching Junior in his studies, and nothing more.
I picked up some flowers (from the florist, not roadside hor) today on my way home after work for my special lady. As I entered the house, I could hear her nagging at Junior for not doing his school work properly. I walked into the study room, surprised her with the flowers and blurted out, "Happy Valentine's Day, Dear!"
She looked up from the study desk and gave me the kind of look she would probably reserve for someone who has run loose from the Institue of Mental Health. "Why you go waste money like that! You nuts or what?" she actually raised her voice. "I told you already, dun spend this kind of money! Why dun you give me the money instead!"
Well, she used to say something like that each year on 14 Feb, but never so "vocal". Neither had she sounded so angry before when I gave her flowers all these years. What's with her? Did I catch her on the wrong time when she was lecturing Junior? Or, has the passion really faded, after 18 years of marriage?
My female colleagues are wrong - dead wrong. NOT ALL women love flowers. I'm convinced.
Valentine's Day? What Valentine's Day? To me, it has all the excitement of a morgue....
Juz go away. I'm on a women-
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16 comments:
hahahaha..... basket, you copycat!
I got bright red roses, what did you give wifey? chrysanthemums? carnations?
Next time, you feel like giving flowers to a woman, give to me la, I'll be more than willing to accept. hehe....
18 years, enough to erode whatever passion there used to be....
My female colleagues are wrong - dead wrong. NOT ALL women love flowers. I'm convinced.
Nope. all women love flowers.
They just love money more.
What GNE said may be true to some extent in the sense that it applies to some women only.
I feel that your experience is due to the fact that not all women are so easy to appease (and be pleased) with flowers. In other words, they are not as goondu as you think.
Chris, this is my theory.
She is angry becos after 18 years you still do not understand her. She thot by now you shd know that what she thinks of people who spend, no; waste money like etc etc. (not my views ... pls)
Your reaction is also wrong and this will lead to trouble. Just accept her and "love her as she is".
Etel is right. All women love flowers. Mine loves to plant them, arrange them and give them away. If I were to do what you did, she may not shout, but she will be thinking, "Why try to be somebody you are not just to conform to the world?"
Chun See,
Thanks. Woa... how u know my reation ah? I dumped the flower away! I guess you're right. But u know how women are... they say one thing, but meant another. The flowers are my expression of love, are they not? But I dun think she sees it that way. To her, it's juz impractical to buy flowers. It took me 18 years to realise she meant business when she said not to "waste" money buying flowers. A joke hor? Just accept her and love her as she is. Hmmm... I'll chew on that ....
Victor,
You're smart. Neber buy flowers for yr other half. Dun be like me. buy kena scolding. I'm the goondu one. :((
Etel,
You're not suggesting that I buy flowers and GIVE her angpow, are you? Pse hor, angmoh and cheena customs cannot mix one hor. Singapore is rojak city, but not rojak until like that one.
Jayne,
Carnations only for teachers lah pls lah. And choi! what chrysanthemums? New year coming dun talk rot lah... Roses of course lah. But actually makes no difference lah. Kena screwed. Sigh.
18 years not very long leh. Still got years of suffeRING to go hor. Sigh.
But u know how women are... they say one thing, but meant another.
correct liao lah...
i understand that you might be hurt (and maybe pissed) by her reaction.. if i were you i will be, too.
but i think its really a nice gesture from you. i dont think you are goondu, neither do i think that she dont know that you are very sweet to buy her flowers. its just that sometimes in a fit of anger we might say/do things in the wrong way. (you mentioned that she was nagging right, maybe she was irritated) well, all of us do the wrong things sometimes, right?
but hey, you deserved a praise for putting in the effort to get her some flowers!
hope you are feeling better..
=)
Chris, you shd go back and read the list of wives' sayings which your good friend has shamelessly (to borrow his favourite description of himself) posted here. Pay particular attention to the one by Milton Berle.
You have a 'good wife' - she will forgive you for this episode.
What a coincidence. I was in the same situation coaching junior, when MDH walked in with a box of chocolate. After 18 years, it's the daily actions that speaks louder than a once a year's gesture.
Chun See - What "shamelessly posted here"? I did you a service by placing it permanently on the web so that you can recall and quote at ease. Never thank me but chide me some more. Some people can be so ungrateful. Hng.
Hahaha.
Happy CNY to everyone.
Liling - Ya, what coincidence, but both with a totally different ending, I'm afraid. We speak loudly alright! We called it "screaming". LOL.
Chun See - you must be joking. "A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong" . Milton Berle (whoever he is/was) has gone bonker. So has Victor for his ill-advice which he has so shamelessly posted in his blog. Dun be influenced by them lah, dead or alive.
Etel - you sound like a sensitive gal. Victor (your bf not your GD)is lucky to have you. Thanks, I'm fine lah. Not about to hang myself. Hehehe.
I guess it's about timing. If she's not so worked up with Junior, I dun think she would behave the way she did. That's why I bought the book "The Five Love Languages" to undertand the language of woman. I'm into the first chapter. Well, guess I better read up more lor....
hey my GD also lucky to have me ok! hahaha! :)
I think I need to get the book too... to understand the languages better.
Oh, did i mention that your background image (the starS) look cheesy? hehe!
Milton Berle was one of the funny men (and women) of what is known as "TV's golden era". Others of this era include Jack Benny, Bob Hope, Flip Wilson, Lucille Ball, Phyllis Diller and others whose names I can't recall off hand. There was one who wore thick glasses and who was never without a cigar and a sexy young thing by his side even until age 90+.
I must blog about those early days of tv in Spore one of these days.
Etel
Cannot praise u one. I juz said you're a sensitive gal, and then you became insensitive and said my background looked cheesy! Is it because the twinkling stars remind you of Christmas tree arh? I remember you're very good in graphic. Got any nice background to spare or not? And can u tell me how to remove the "Life, as I seen it" portion on the top right of the page?
Chun See
Then faster blog lah to educate the ignorant me. Of the names you rattled off, I only know Bob Hope and Lucille Ball....
whahahahaha xmas tree.. abit =x im not gd with graphics.. =.=" background.. what color u wan? hehehe.. i seldom design these days...
to remove the "Life, as I seen it" at the top right of the page, go to your html codes.. look for [title]Life, as I seen it[/title] (the brackets should be < and > instead of [ and ]) and change the words.
cheers!
Etel
I know how to change the background colour lah. But that's not what I want. I want to remove the title "life, as I see it", not juz the words, but the whole "field". Your tag is different from the one I see on my html template. How?
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