Wednesday, March 21, 2007

The boy, my son ....

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Boy
When you were just a kid
Oh, you brought such warmth into our lives
You were our bundle of joy
The apple of Daddy's eyes

Boy
At 16, see how you've grown?
A tall and strong lad
Towering over
Your graying Dad

Boy
You always say
Daddy never has a clue
But I know how it's like to be young
Daddy was once there, too

Boy
It pains me deeply
To see the way you behave
The angst of teenage
Is this just a phase?

Son
I'm sorry if Daddy's hurt you
And made you cry
Daddy never meant to hit you
I know it hurts, but it pains me too

Son
Perhaps it's best, I let you be
One day, maybe you'd see
Daddy's really not as bad
As you made him to be .....


We love you son,
Mum and Dad

Category: Personal

19 comments:

Lam Chun See said...

Woe.. this is no good man. You must have really lost your cool. Must be feeling real shitty. Never mind lah, they will understand that fathers are only human.

eastcoastlife said...

Parenting woes.

Our kid is like a little bird. If you don't clasp it firmly in your palm, it will fly away. If you clasp it too tight, you will suffocate it.

I know what you are going through is not easy, is there any way I can help?

Victor said...

Oh no, not again
Do you mean the last tiff
Or is this a new incident
Don't scare me stiff

Cool down man
This is no good
Always count to ten
It'll change your mood

Shilpa said...

Oh how sweet.. is your son really 16 or just poetic licence? Awww.. it'll be ages before my own son reaches that stage, so I have no idea what it must feel like to not see eye to eye with your kid. Sigh, parenting definitely isn't easy! I know I was a shitty kid to my mom, too.

KopiSoh said...

Parenting a teen is no walk in the park, I assume, have yet to reach that stage myself but having worked with many many teenagers (delinquent ones on top of that), all I can say is they are like us too, needs to be respected and communication is the key. Did you write that poem? Very touching.
Btw checked out your pumpkin noodle recipe, what is chye sim?

iml said...

One day your son will realise,
it's love, it's concern,it's anxiety for his well being that you did what you did.

Anonymous said...

You son got read your blog or not? ;p

Anonymous said...

hmm... Hope you are feeling better now.

He'll be upset for now, but he'll be alright later.

I used to have a huge quarrel with my dad back in year 2005. I remember how he scold me with really harsh words, asking me to move away, go away from the house. All said just because he wanted to protect my sis.

I remember crying BUCKETS (I mean it, I cried from night till dawn, hard)..

But I forgave him.

So the same will go to your son too. and you, forgive him or yourself too.

To err is human.

Chris Sim said...

Hi ladies, and gentlmen...

Thanks a lot for the kind concern and the encouragement. It's juz a "little crisis" I'm having with my big boy, who's actually 15. As I've said before, we weren't issue any instruction manual from the hospital when we brought our babies home... we haven't got a clue on how best to bring up our kids. Kids these days are living in a very different time compared to some of us older people, but much of what they want remains the same. They want freedom, they want to do things their ways. But many of them, including my son, have no respect whatsover to authority.

As a father, I think I've performed below expectation. I'm never the authoritative kind. I'm also not a strict parent, but we negotiate alot over things that he wants (and the things that I want him to do). Problems started when he failed to keep to his side of our bargain. Actually, my only requirement of him is to study well. But I think I got it all wrong! On hindsight, I think what counts most is the character of the kid. What's the point of being a straight A student (not that he is), if you treat the elderly around disrespectfully? That's the area that I've failed to inculcate in him.

Victor said...

>They want freedom, they want to do things their ways.

They also want unconditional love from their parents. Admittedly, it's very hard for most of us parents to fulfill that requirement strictly.

>...treat the elderly around disrespectfully...

Surely you cannot be considered the elderly. I think they should learn to respect authority.

Lam Chun See said...

Maybe you shd refer him to Mark 7:10.

Victor said...

For a moment there, the non-Christian monkey who's obsessed not only with sex but also with women's figures thought that Chun See made an appointment for your son to see the school counsellor-cum-psychologist Mark at 7:10 am tomorrow. Then I realised that he meant this.

Chris Sim said...

Dun be such an a**, Victor.

Lam Chun See said...

You mean he is born in year of donkey not monkey?

Victor said...

A still unrepentant and agnostic Victor says, "Wei, don't put words into Chris mouth, okay? I know that whatever Chris said (whether to his son, me or anyone else for that matter) is with god, I mean good intentions wan. Surely he meant I am of "A-Star-Star" material for coming up with such an obscure association.

Chris Sim said...

Now you're acting like a dumbass, Victor.

eastcoastlife said...

Victor,
For you, the a** means exactly what you represent ASS!!!

eastcoastlife said...

Chris,
Nobody can be a perfect parent. I rule my son with an iron hand, ok, my hubby too!

I thrash my son very hard. Sometimes for days he cannot attend school becos of the cane marks. Over small matter la! He's very scared of me. If I say 'No', he dares not do anything.

Sometimes I really pity my son. And he has no hp, PC, ipod, gameboy, Xbox....etc. Child abuse haha!

I'm very lucky he didn't turn rebellious. Not all kids can take this type of hardship. But I believe a child got to learn things the hard way, like the way I did. it doesn't matter which millenium they were born. Although I could afford all the luxuries, I try to live as simply as possible. same goes for my son.

My son has only been driven to school once. That was becos we were hosting a HK exchange student from his school. In heavy rains, he has to take two buses to & from school. If these events didn't get him down, he will toughen up and be ready to face the world. Dun wait until NS! I still think tats a waste of time!

Chris Sim said...

Jaymes is very well-adjusted and brought up. I suppose we shan't shelter and over-protect our kids too much which I'm guilty of doing sometimes.